As I kick-start with today's post, I would really like to mention that it is something very ironical to what I am all about. Being an extrovert and always upfront about things I believe in, speaking loud (sometimes way more than required), outrageous, and always ready to debate (sometimes a fighter-toad as well). Yet, I would not hesitate to jot down about the benefits of silence I have started appreciating lately since it's been adopted by me for quite some time now.
Silence has its own language and is way more effective than mere usage of words especially when it comes to making our close ones know what we are going through. However, people take some time to realize it.
The one who understands the value and art of silence often stays happier than others and also have increased success rates as these people are better learner and observer of things.
Being silent at times is more powerful than expressing through words and it does work unexpectedly.
How does it work?
- Mentally, it keeps us calm and doesn't let us burst out and lose control over our language and the awkward ways of releasing out things. Allow us to take a step back and peacefully analyse the situation and thus try to deal with it in a much better way.
- Physically, it does help to have a regulated physiological mechanism by relaxing ourselves and preventing to have high blood pressure and shooting heart rate at the time of disagreements, conflicts, arguments, rifts, or fights (a higher step). Keeps the body at peace with its normal functioning as it is seen that in heated up situations or in rage and aggression, one tend to lose his control over the words spoken and the actions performed which is often regrettable later on. It leads to control our stress levels by keeping the cortisol and adrenal rush in balance at times when we are exhausted in making others understand something verbally.
- Intellectually, such a person has a better and sharper focus on aspects of life and is way more creative than others as his energy is not being dissipated on unnecessary speaking. Also, it is seen that he would be a better learner (not just a bookish knowledge) as silence teaches him to be a good listener with better grasping skills. These kind of people are good observers too and thus able to deal with every phase and stage of life in a better way.
- Socially, it gives a person an appealing personality and is respected as others listen to such a person with great depth for they know such a person doesn't speak irrelevantly.
- Silence renders us with the utmost sense of balance and hence such a person is able to break through the doors of confusions and chaos of life with his sound and balanced mind.
- It helps us to lead a life journey to self-realization and thus towards self-sufficiency and hence such a person doesn't show-off his attributes. He fully knows his worth and feels complete within himself.
- Silence helps us to attain free will and such free minds are able to love freely and unconditionally.
- Most important of all, it gives us the strength, lessens our chances to get vulnerable to negative situations which are so demanding and energy consuming and helps to avoid it as much as possible. Also helps us to evaluate the good and bad sides of others and thus we can take better decisions regarding them because we would then be able to judge their viewpoint by being in their shoes. It also allows another person to think and evaluate our side of actions as well (provided the other side should be wise enough to do so).
Besides what is above mentioned, it is very important to shift your attention to the point that silence should never be mistaken with the Introversion or the accumulation of the heaps of emotions meant to be shared or disclosed. It's very essential for one to express his feelings if he thinks that maintaining silence would fetch him frustrations or loss of peace. Hence, the timely venting out of emotions is necessary too.
Silence should not be misused as a tool to keep grudges for someone and if one thinks that his silence is creating a vicious circle of negativity, he should always be upfront about the respective matter.
Also, it should not be taken as a sign of cowardice as in today's world, where everyone is trying to prove his point and authority over others, being silent and calm is an epitome of strength.
So let's try to bring the magic of being silent and calm into our lives. I know for everyone out there, who is especially like me, it would be very difficult to do so, but trust me I have started practising it and it does bring wonders to your mind, body, and soul.....
Wishing you all a peaceful Life.......
